The following story is real. It’s not a network TV movie of the week. It’s not a Nicolas Sparks novel. It’s not a song. It is real and crushing and can hold some very critical lessons if you are willing to read it.

I conduct leadership programs around the country and lately have had many discussions with people about what their leader’s lack, and what they lack as a leader and would like to work on themselves.

The fire of violence is consuming us, and it seems to be a raging fire. The flames are being fanned every day on TV, in the news, on social media, on talk radio, at the dinner tables, and in the offices down the street.

When I ask people one on one why they aren’t setting goals, they have the same answers all over the country: “I don’t have time.” “I am busy.” “I don’t know how.”

In organizations, there seems to be a remarkable gap between the leader’s perception of the effectiveness of their communication and the team’s. Here are seven elements think about in terms of closing the leadership communication gap.

Where are the ideas? I just know they are there. They are available and abundant. So how can you get and stay more creative?

How can I get and stay motivated in times like these? First, here is the bad news: It is not easy; it’s hard. Now, here is the good news: It can be done.

About 10 years ago, on a night that is burned in my memory, my wife passed away suddenly at the age of fifty. I was 54 years old and became a widower overnight.

What can we do about all the violence and negativity in the world? What can I do about it? What can you do about it? There is something small you can do.

There are individuals in the world who say, “Well, of course, it is very negative world. You can’t just put your head in the sand. I mean, wars do happen.” Yes, I know, but there is also beauty and magnificence in the world. So let me give you some suggestions on how to be more optimistic and upbeat and positive. You can decide.